It’s really very simple when it comes right down to it. We all hit a point in our lives where we’re longing for something different. A change of some kind. Maybe it’s a career transition. Maybe it’s transforming into the person you deep down always really wanted to be, but you got derailed somewhere along the way with the chaos of chasing kids and career success. Maybe it’s a separation from a life you know is going in the wrong direction.
Or maybe you’re not even sure of what it is that you want, but something feels out of place. You just feel incomplete, like something is missing. With the clients I work with, I call this the scratch or the itch that they can’t get rid of.
Personally, I experienced this after 11 years of teaching. I knew something just wasn’t quite right and that there was something else out there for me. When I had previously heard people talk about how they’d felt as if they had been lead down a path to something else I usually scoffed at the concept. To be honest, I would really find myself questioning the whole concept and authenticity of it with one eyebrow peaked higher than the other.
That was until it happened to me. It was as if I had a sudden awakening to there being more out there for me and I was being called to it. At the time, I had no idea what it really was. And even for months after quitting teaching I wasn’t 100% sure of what I was completely chasing, but I knew I needed to continue in that direction.
Ultimately, what I found out is that it wasn’t so much anything on the outside or around me that I was chasing and being led to, but more of what was inside of me that I hadn’t dove deep enough to discover and let out yet. I had spent years looking outside for a happiness and drive that was going to bring me that balance and fulfillment I was longed for, when all along it was hiding deep inside of me, waiting to be found. It took a deep and thorough self-discovery process of asking tough questions that I had never asked myself before. Who truly am I? What’s my purpose? What am I really about? What’s truly important to me and what do I value? What’s holding me back? It was ruminating over these same questions over and over that started to bring me clarity and expose my true beliefs and values that I carried deep down. And also slowly started to shatter the self-limiting beliefs and doubts I had formed about myself over 30+ years. And started to form cracks and weaknesses in the fears I had carried with me for so long.
I now realize that these questions are never completely answered, but every day I ponder them and think deeply about them I am discovering more and more about myself and am constantly refining my philosophies toward life. And in the words of Robert Frost …that has made all the difference.
My challenge to you today is this. Ask yourself three tough questions regarding yourself:
- Where am I?
- Where do I want to be?
- What is the obstacle holding me back from getting there?
It may be that you’re struggling with your identity. Maybe you desperately need a career change. It may be that you’re lacking organization that’s preventing you from enjoying time with your family. Maybe it’s that you don’t have a plan or strong guidance to get you from where you want to be. Whatever it may be, take the necessary steps to identify it, strategically plan to overcome it and take steps to crush it.
Only you have the power to take those necessary steps to do so. It’s in nobody else’s hands but your own. I encourage you today as you read this to OWN YOU and live the life you have always wanted for yourself.
Not sure where to start? Take the first step and schedule a FREE Own You Strategy Session with me. On that call I’ll help you clarify your obstacles, determine what it is that you want and don’t want and develop a plan to get you to where you want to be.